Friendship goodbyes

Friendship can be tricky. It is harder to form new friendships as an adult. But when you do form one it comes with a lot of baggage. When adult friendships happen that person has not been with you through hard times. When you are younger friendship tend to grow and adapt as you both get older. That person has been there through your rough times and your great times. A new friend as an adult has not. Over the past few years I was hit with the reality of who my true friends are. A few years ago I made new friends and I thought they were just great people and I really thought they cared about me. But when something happened they just cut off the friendship with out an explanation. One friend had got upset because I made a joke and she thought I was serious. That is all it took for her to end our friendship. I told her that what I said was a joke and to be honest she should have known because she knew my sense of humour and also knew that I would never say anything to hurt anybody. My friends that I grew up with would have accepted my explanation and moved on. They are the ones who if even if you get into an argument with each other they will still be there. Another friend of mine acted like I was a close friend and she opened up to me about a lot of personal stuff. Than after I had my baby and suffered post partum she just stopped talking to me. I asked her why and she said she didn’t want to bother me. Real friends know that when someone is has having a hard time they are not bothered by their friends checking up on them. They appreciate it and it helps to know you have someone who cares and that you can talk to if needed. Also a real friend is someone who even though you  haven’t got together in a long time it does not matter. When you do get together it is natural and like you have never been apart. Finding out who your true friends are can be hurtful and I wish people had the balls to you why they don’t want to be friend anymore. I wish they could just say that they are an asshole an be done with it. Ghosting someone after you have told them that they  consider you a best friend is just mean and immature. Do they not realize that they have just hurt someone who did nothing wrong. I have four friends in my life who would never abandon me . My best friend Kristy and my three really close friends Cindy, Erika and Sharon. I really appreciate you guys. I am happy in the knowledge that no matter how much time passes in seeing each other you will be there. They are the only ones that I know for sure would never just stop being friends with me just because I am going through a hard time. They would never say that they only want to be friends when I am happy. They are good people who would do they could to help or just be there as a shoulder to cry on. I feel bad for the friends that I lost as a an adult. I hate learning that someone really never game a damn about me. I guess some people don’t know what a friend truly is. I just wish people were more compassionate and understanding and can take a joke(never at their expense). I know those four friends of mine will be in my life always and I count myself lucky. We accept each others differences and are able to be ourselves around each other without worrying that the friendship is going to end. Anyway, I hope everyone has as least one friend in their life who is there for them. Being there for someone can make a difference to that person. It is hard to find out who your true friends are when you are down but I guess its better not to have a person in your life who only cares about you when you are happy. So thank you to my good friends. You guys are the best. And to all those who abandoned someone in their time of need grow the fuck up and don’t be so self centered. Treat your friends the way you would want to be treated and don’t complain if you have a friend who abandoned you because that is hypocritical. Learn what friendship truly is.